When adults get a divorce, there are many different matters that have to be handled. One of these is the child custody case. Unfortunately, the most precious people in the parents' life are going to be at the center of what could shape up to be a very contentious battle. Parents must think carefully about how the divorce and the decisions that are made will impact the children.
You get to court knowing exactly what you want in terms of child custody rights. You know where you want the child to live, how he or she should be raised and what role you want your ex to have in this process.
You may have heard of joint custody and sole custody, but what about split custody? The first thing you should know is that it's very uncommon, but it has been used.
You want to be involved with your kids, but parenting with your ex sounds terrible. The two of you really want nothing to do with one another.
You and your spouse are divorcing and you have a 2-year-old child. Quite frankly, you're angry about the divorce, but you don't let that impact the decisions you make. You still work hard to create a parenting plan and a custody schedule that both focus on your child's best interests.
You're trying to get visitation rights so that you can still see your child after the divorce, and you've heard that the court can order supervised visitation in certain cases. Why is this used and what would it mean for you?
You're afraid that co-parenting is going to be hard for you. It means staying in touch with your ex. It means never quite putting that relationship in the past, even after the divorce.
Some people feel like fathers are at an automatic disadvantage if they're seeking primary custody of their children.
During the early days of a separation when a fragile marriage finally shatters, emotions can run especially high. That's when some parents react badly or out of character-- especially if young children are involved.
We've talked before about how a Guardian Ad Litem (GAL) can sometimes be important to a child custody case. Parents are often understandably nervous before the GAL's first visit to their home because so much rides on this person's impressions of you and your parenting skills.