You're afraid that co-parenting is going to be hard for you. It means staying in touch with your ex. It means never quite putting that relationship in the past, even after the divorce.
Some people feel like fathers are at an automatic disadvantage if they're seeking primary custody of their children.
During the early days of a separation when a fragile marriage finally shatters, emotions can run especially high. That's when some parents react badly or out of character-- especially if young children are involved.
We've talked before about how a Guardian Ad Litem (GAL) can sometimes be important to a child custody case. Parents are often understandably nervous before the GAL's first visit to their home because so much rides on this person's impressions of you and your parenting skills.
When you're in the middle of a difficult custody battle, it probably already seems like there are already too many people involved in your family's private business -- so it probably seems like an unnecessary complication to add another voice to the mix.
The notion that you should suddenly be required to have to have a parenting class just because you're getting divorced may seem a little insulting -- after all, you've been doing the job since your oldest child was born, and a divorce isn't going to change that.
Summer and the end of school is right around the corner, which kids all across Hawaii are looking forward to. However, parents may not be as enthusiastic, especially if they share custody of their kids.