Everybody has a few bad habits. Sometimes, those habits are so ingrained, however, that they seem to dominate a person's entire personality. That can make them awfully hard people to maintain a relationship with in the long run.
The first set of holidays after your separation or divorce can feel like a real ordeal. After all, you're barely used to being on your own again and now you have to somehow navigate the intricacies of a family gathering when your own nuclear family has just dissolved.
How do you know if it's time to call "quits" on your marriage and get a divorce? Absent a sudden, shocking event, many unhappy marriages will drift along for a while simply because neither spouse wants to be the one to upset the status quo.
You aren't happy in your marriage and want out -- but your spouse is refusing to acknowledge that the relationship is totally over. You've heard horror stories about people stuck in marriages because their spouse wouldn't agree to a divorce and wonder if it could happen to you.
As soon as you announce that you're seeking a divorce, well-meaning people are apt to offer their support and advice.
It's difficult not to let your divorce affect every aspect of your world -- but allowing it free rein in your professional life can be career suicide. Even the most understanding of bosses will have a limit to their patience if you aren't performing.
In a previous blog post, we talked about why divorce mediation has become so popular all of a sudden. Now, we'd like to talk a little bit about how you go about choosing the right mediator for your particular divorce.
What makes a marriage toxic?
Most people picture divorce as an adversarial process. They envision battling out every detail of their split with their spouse in court, in front of a judge.
Mediation is a useful alternative to a litigated divorce, especially for parents who are trying to preserve a working relationship for their children's sake or couples who hope to preserve a friendship after their divorce.