How do you know if it's time to call "quits" on your marriage and get a divorce? Absent a sudden, shocking event, many unhappy marriages will drift along for a while simply because neither spouse wants to be the one to upset the status quo.
You aren't happy in your marriage and want out -- but your spouse is refusing to acknowledge that the relationship is totally over. You've heard horror stories about people stuck in marriages because their spouse wouldn't agree to a divorce and wonder if it could happen to you.
As soon as you announce that you're seeking a divorce, well-meaning people are apt to offer their support and advice.
It's difficult not to let your divorce affect every aspect of your world -- but allowing it free rein in your professional life can be career suicide. Even the most understanding of bosses will have a limit to their patience if you aren't performing.
In a previous blog post, we talked about why divorce mediation has become so popular all of a sudden. Now, we'd like to talk a little bit about how you go about choosing the right mediator for your particular divorce.
What makes a marriage toxic?
Most people picture divorce as an adversarial process. They envision battling out every detail of their split with their spouse in court, in front of a judge.
Mediation is a useful alternative to a litigated divorce, especially for parents who are trying to preserve a working relationship for their children's sake or couples who hope to preserve a friendship after their divorce.
If you're unhappily married, you probably have been thinking about divorce for quite a while. You may even have started to imagine what life would be like if your spouse was no longer around.
It's a common problem: You get divorced and suddenly your social circle -- the people you were counting on to get you through the worst days of the whole process -- shrinks dramatically. Why do so many people find that their friends are suddenly nowhere to be found once they get a divorce?Psychologists say that there are actually several reasons it happens, so you should prepare yourself for this possibility once you make the announcement: