In a previous blog post, we talked about why divorce mediation has become so popular all of a sudden. Now, we'd like to talk a little bit about how you go about choosing the right mediator for your particular divorce.
What makes a marriage toxic?
Most people picture divorce as an adversarial process. They envision battling out every detail of their split with their spouse in court, in front of a judge.
Mediation is a useful alternative to a litigated divorce, especially for parents who are trying to preserve a working relationship for their children's sake or couples who hope to preserve a friendship after their divorce.
If you're unhappily married, you probably have been thinking about divorce for quite a while. You may even have started to imagine what life would be like if your spouse was no longer around.
It's a common problem: You get divorced and suddenly your social circle -- the people you were counting on to get you through the worst days of the whole process -- shrinks dramatically. Why do so many people find that their friends are suddenly nowhere to be found once they get a divorce?Psychologists say that there are actually several reasons it happens, so you should prepare yourself for this possibility once you make the announcement:
Is your child about to graduate from high school or college? Whether your divorce is almost over or still in the beginning stages, events like a child's graduation can be stressful for both divorcing parents and their children -- especially if the ex-couple still has unresolved issues.
When you were still married, traveling with the kids was no big deal. You and your spouse simply organized the trip, put the kids in the car and went where you pleased.
Could you be headed for a divorce?
It's almost impossible to contemplate a divorce without thinking about the money involved. Divorce is, after all, expensive.