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Reduce your co-parenting stressors

Co-parenting with your spouse can be challenging -- but co-parenting with your ex-spouse can be an actual nightmare. When your relationship with your child's other parent is rocky (at best), you need to find as many ways as you can to reduce your stress.

Here are some tips that will make co-parenting easier:

1. Find a communication method that avoids conflict.

If you and your ex-spouse can't seem to be in a room together without yelling, try communicating over text or email instead. Keep your language polite and professional and avoid personal attacks or emotional outbursts.

2. Approach parenting like a business.

If you think of parenting as a business relationship with your ex, you may find it easier to focus just on the kids -- not on your past conflicts of what your ex-spouse is doing now. The idea can help you keep your communications civil.

3. Try to find common ground.

You may want to run your household differently than the way your ex-spouse runs things, but children thrive on consistency. Try to establish some ground rules regarding schoolwork, chores, bedtime and approved activities for the kids that can be enforced in both households.

4. Learn to be flexible.

No matter how well you try to plan ahead, there are bound to be times when your custody and visitation agreement is inconvenient for you, your ex-spouse or your child. If you and your ex-spouse learn to be flexible, to "trade time" and put your child's emotional needs first, you'll end up with less stress and happier kids.

If you've done your best to work with your ex-spouse and the conflicts over custody seem to be endless, it may be time to discuss your options with an experienced family law attorney.

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